Peanut App: Find Mom Friends

Because this is its own social network and not integrated into an already existing social network, the amount of people is limited. Hopefully this app being advertised on the front page of the App Store today will help with that. I’m sure there are a few people who have found real life connections on here, but I have not. Lots of people to chat with online, but when you want to meet up it’s a no go. It seems like we’re in a part of the electronic age where people are obsessed with their phones and don’t actually want to meet in person. Their whole lives are virtual now and they’re not okay with fixing the addiction. The app itself is very well made, everything works well. There is an Incognito button if you’re too embarrassed to say something or ask a question and have it show your name. There is also a block button because unfortunately mom’s can be insane and mean too. Matching up to chat is somewhat like the Tinder setup with swiping and two people swiping each other gives you a Match. No bugs at all so far and I’ve been using it for a month. So, 4/5 stars because the app does what it’s supposed to, it’s just the majority of users aren’t interested in using it to find real life friends like it’s supposed to be used for.

I really love the concept of this app! So far I have not made any real life connections in this app. Only virtually. But I’m hoping that will change soon!! A big part of why I didn’t give this app five stars is because it’s not exclusive when searching for what you’re looking for. I have a special needs son and am looking for other moms in my area who also have special needs kids. There’s not an option to filter your searches using the badges on your profile. Additionally, I’d love to be able to creat a group on here for special needs parents where I can set up events or book clubs or play dates for our kids with special needs. Or even just talk about our struggles within the group. Unfortunately that’s not an option yet, but I’m hoping it soon will be! Finding moms to talk to on here has been great!!! I hope to keep making connections, but hopefully I’ll be able to make more connections with moms I have things in common with.

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If you are struggling with infertility I do not suggest using this app to find connections or advice. While there are many opportunities to connect with other women going through IVF, IUI, RPL, etc. you have to swipe through tons of people who are just starting to try and have had zero issues. PLUS within the swipe/match feature people can share posts so you will find yourself swiping through tons of positive pregnancy tests. As someone who has spent 2 years trying to conceive, has had multiple surgeries, and a failed round of IVF I was hoping Peanut would allow me to browse a community of others in my same boat. There is not an option to filter connection suggestions to only those doing IVF, there is also no way to filter it so that you can avoid seeing positive tests/posts. While looking to connect with others who may be struggling you are forced to endure many, many other bright eyed women who have no issues conceiving and are constantly faced with posts from women asking you to tell them if their positive test is really positive. I have emailed Peanut to let them know how difficult their app makes it for those of us in the Infertility Community and gotten no response. Hopefully Peanut will change their options so that you can filter suggested connections and viewed posts - until then I do not recommend it.

I must say not being from the DMV makes it hard to just jump into friendships with people. My story... I met friends through work then shortly afterwards got pregnant and they dropped me like a sack of potatoes lol So yeah there with my clan :-(. Why do people with no kids think if your pregnant then you can’t hang out or too tired too 🙄. Anywho I came across this app and I must say it was one of the best most refreshing discoveries ever! Whomever thought of this was genius lol. I will say to meet other mothers going through your journey. Getting to share each other’s journey and talk about things that you both can relate to is priceless. Building bonds with other woman and solid friendships are hard to come by. This app has change my social life completely. Meet my first mom (1week apart) this Sat! So I’m super excited and to know that the moms I meet are close by makes for more opportunities to build on the bond. Can’t wait for the time I’m able to take my son out on play dates 😊

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This is a really great idea to help us lonely moms find friends. However, you awkwardly feel like you are on a mommy dating app—trying to find other moms that will match with you. Then when you do match, they give you the most interesting small talk conversation topics. I do like that they have groups around and they set up dates to get moms out together at a park etc. There is one other dark twist to this app: the feature that allows you to post anonymously. Most of the women on there are berating their spouses/ significant others. I am strongly opposed to “husband bashing” and I don’t think that this should be tolerated. Or to the same extreme other mothers are complaining about how much they hate motherhood, and are probably in a depressive state, but because they are posting anonymously nobody can report them, especially when I’ve seen posts that seemed borderline suicidal. I really wish that they would get rid of that feature, and make the environment up-lifting. I would always leave the app feeling sad, and in kind of a dark place. I definitely will continue to try and make mommy friends the old fashioned way.