Mend: Self Care For Breakups

MEND app has helped me grow tremendously! It has saved me from my first heartbreak- which was after a 2 year relationship, both of us in our mid fifties. So not a "typical first heartbreak ". It has helped me heal, taught me to love myself, taught me about what actually happens to the body during a heartbreak including explains the constant physical ache in my heart and gut. It has given me tools to use to move forward and help me cope, as well as help me understand all the issues behind why it didn't work and what I can learn from that. It has given me hope for my future as well as taught me what I want to look for in a future relationship. It has also taught me that it's perfectly wonderful to NOT be in a relationship and that my single life can be wonderful and FULL of happiness!! (Something that I NEVER thought possible as my lifelong dream has been to be in a "happily ever after" relationship! MEND is an honest to goodness LIFESAVER!! It is absolutely invaluable and PRICELESS! 💞 and WORTH EVERY PENNY you spend!!

Sometimes this app says exactly what you need to hear. Sometimes it makes you think of things you never would have thought of, teaches you about yourself, tells you everything will be okay and makes you believe it. These are beautiful things. However, it’s undercut significantly by glitches within the app. Although the interface is incredibly simple (it looks like a chat between you and your friend), it glitches almost daily by duplicating responses and questions. This is annoying, but fine. Today, my training was a disaster. I specified that I was broken up with, and that the reason was “fell out of love”, meaning my partner no longer loved me and broke up with me. Today, my training was taken from the switched perspective, and I had to listen to two minutes of “maybe if you’re willing and your partner is willing, you may fall in love again!”. It was cruel to hear about a reality that is not possible, but one I want. To top it off, the journal prompt was “What factors contributed to me falling out of love with my partner?”. My answer: “I didn’t.” The app should make sure trainings like this are not available to those who have been broken up with, because otherwise, it makes a crappy day so much worse for it’s paying users.

I'm going through a breakup and I have to say the content is excellent. It really has been like a friend holding my hand through the whole terrible emotional landscape of what I've been going through. This has taught me to take care of myself, listen to myself, focus on myself and spend time away from my ex and try to heal. I only removed one star because the app is a bit glitchy- I've had a problem with it deleting journal entries a couple times and I also wish the "recommended for you" changed after you read the articles. Otherwise, content wise, it's incredible and it's really helped me a lot. Thanks you guys for this app. EDIT: I updated my app and many of the glitches went away! Also the mend team is very responsive. Thanks again for everything.

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I was pretty disappointed when I found what mend had to offer. Forget the almost immediate paywall. This is the world we live in now, I guess. I selected infidelity as the reason for my breakup because that was the closest to a breech of trust. But I was the one who broke the trust. The fact that this app didn’t even account for that possibility let me to wonder if I was even worth it. I’m still struggling, and I thought the stories from others might help. I know from the App Store that the creator is female. I know I’m not entitled to every app catering to me, but the story I read quoted the creator saying how she knew this experience is universal. I have emotions, and I can be haunted by past with the best of them. I’m not a breakup scientist, so maybe there is something significantly different among how genders react to the end of a relationship. I was hoping this app would be there to help me through that, but it seemed mostly geared to people more or less like the creator. Not surprising, but still disappointing. Good thing I have a backup of crying and dancing to songs we listened to in the middle of the night 2 years later.

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I wanted to like this app, and some people actually recommended it to me. However, it is SO EXPENSIVE, and I felt like the sessions got worse and more generic AFTER I spent the money. It also isn’t clear up front that the first seven days are free. I thought I had to make a decision after the first training, and I was in such a bad place that I just signed up and spent the money. I feel like this app preys on people going through a hard time, and once you spend the money, no one cares about actually helping you deal with what you’re going through. There’s also no way to get a refund. I tried to push through since I spent $110, but the last few “sessions” have been generic and entirely not applicable to my situation in any way. It’s basically a bunch of 3-5 minute podcasts that I feel like you could find for much cheaper anywhere, and the rest of the content isn’t any better than what you could find on elite daily or the Odyssey. Very disappointed and would not recommend.